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The Two Types of Nice People

November 22, 2018

This post’s been a long time coming, and one I’m really fired for. So I consider myself a nice person. I believe in kindness and treating people and life with respect. I like friendly people and believe being kind can do the world some good.

Lately I notice a trend happening among our society. People are dissing the idea of kindness, calling it week or passive. So you can imagine my rage when I keep seeing articles and books and conversations ridiculing it, saying they finish last and are boring. Oh, you know those articles and what not, claiming nice girls don’t get the raise or nice guys don’t get the girl.

It’s rubberish I tell you. Condemning this only gives permission for rude, mean behavior. With that being said, I also notice another alarming trend. People are blaming their “kind” behavior for their poor choices and mistreatment by others.

After 26 years on this earth, I discovered there are two types of kind people: nice and “nice.”

Nice People

  • Are genuinely kind and friendly
  • Help and befriend others for the pure sense of helping
  • Empathetic and compassionate
  • Creates healthy boundaries
  • Stands up for one’s self and confronts in a mature manner
  • Tells the truth without cruelty
  • Secure in themselves

 

“Nice People”

  • Aren’t actually nice
  • Helps or befriends with ulterior motives and agendas
  • Isn’t empathetic or compassionate
  • Doesn’t have healthy boundaries
  • Think they’re entitled to the opposite sex (sex, dating, relationship, etc.) for their kindness
  • Typically passive and a pushover
  • Blames their actions or mistreatment on their “kindness”
  • No self-worth

 

I really want to set the standards straight on this subject. People twist these behaviors around, encouraging bullying and aggressive behaviors. I really can’t stand it. So what are your thoughts on this? Do you agree or disagree? Why? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject!

 

 

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  1. Lauren says

    November 26, 2018 at 5:36 pm

    Totally agree! Love this.

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    • tcole1164 says

      November 27, 2018 at 12:56 am

      Hey Lauren! I’m glad you liked the post!

      Tabitha

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  2. Lisa AUtumn says

    November 26, 2018 at 8:39 pm

    Couldn’t agree more!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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    • tcole1164 says

      November 27, 2018 at 12:55 am

      Hey Lisa! I’m happy you enjoyed the article!!
      Tabitha

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