Raise your hand if you we’re told the girl down the road is a slut and is immoral because she lives with her boyfriend? Or you were cautioned of that tattooed, cussing boy next door and how morally wrong he is?
*Raises hand dramatically*
Growing up in a deeply religious home, and within the Bible belt, I’ve listened to my fair share of “truths” and morals. It was either “Do this to be pure” or “Stay clear of this to be a good person.”
If you also grew up in a traditional religious home, you know what I’m talking about. For those oblivious, well consider yourself lucky, and I truly mean it in a positive way.
Now I’m in no way condemning or shaming traditional religious people (maybe just a tad, but only extremists). In fact, I consider myself a spiritual person with a relationship with God. I’m thankful for my values I learned growing up, but I don’t want to stop or end it at a book.
With that being said, my morals back then versus now are very different, and thankfully, very thankfully, evolved.
But first, what are they?
What Are Morals?
Simply put, they are a person’s ethics and values of right and wrong. It’s what we consider subjectively right and wrong.
Notice the word subjective.
Now I think it’s essential having personal integrity. Without such values, we’d have a chaotic, lawless world. Think of the movie The Purge. Not a pretty sight.
Unfortunately society’s view on morals are slightly distorted and seriously messed up.
I’ve witnessed how such “morals” destroyed and shamed good people, especially people I love. I loathe seeing amazing, genuine people shamed and controlled because of this. It boils my blood thinking about it.
Now I believe everyone is entitled their own beliefs and values. It’s our human right, and it’s amazing how unique and diverse we are. But no one should use their own moral compass to dictate the lives of others.
So what do I think are distorted morals, and what are my own?
- Not engaging in_or even thinking about_ promiscuous, sexual behavior outside of marriage (especially for women)
- Avoiding parties and alcohol, or any pleasures or fun period
- Keeping your mouth clean from curse words ,sarcastic language, and jokes (“bless your heart” doesn’t count)
- Being involved in the church or religious organization 8 days a week
- Covering your body completely and viewing it as something shameful
- Only listening to “old fashion” music clear of any curse words, contemporary sounds, and slang
My Personal Morals
- Not harming humans, animals, or our planet
- Being kind just because
- Bringing a voice to the oppressed and helping others without selfishness
- Doing anything without malicious intent
- Not murdering, raping, or controlling others
- Not holding back precious resources and ridding yourself of greediness
- Avoiding throwing others under the bus to get ahead
- Not cheating or lying with selfish intents
So why am I writing this? What’s the point of sharing my own personal morals when I think everyone’s allowed their own?
Through my own experience, and witnessing the experience of others, I’ve seen the ugly impact this distortion has. I don’t want you feeling shamed or guilty because your actions aren’t as “pure” as someone else’s.
What the heck does pure even mean?
Your morals are yours. Live what’s right for you and no one else. As long as your not harming yourself or others, then you’re living a morally right life.
So what are your opinions on this subject? Do you agree or disagree? Why?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!